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Signs You’re Not Making Progress In Life

Have you ever wondered why husbands never really get to know their neighbors next door? It’s because they’re always working to get the next pay check for breakfast. Of course that’s subject  to countless interpretation but we stick to that for now.
Have you ever imagined mounting a scooter on a treadmill? Or even wondered whether it would balance? My bet is it could perfectly balance and you could ride on it, as if it were on the ground. You would only possibly fall after turning off both the treadmill and the scooter, and that leads me to my next conclusion: air resistance plays no role in ultimately keeping us from falling off bikes.

So what then causes one to stay up balanced when riding? – The very focus on the road ahead. And it is this we have learned from our earliest days of riding two wheelers. Something a six year old would relate to. 

Life bears certain similarities to a scooter and two wheeler, you only realize the threats of your surrounding when you stop pedling. You notice how uneven the ground is and how easy it is for you to fall, when you stop riding. None of which you had realized while wheeling this piece of metal with a mono-linear touch to the ground. 

It’s not like the air flow kept you afloat while you were riding, but fear kicked in as soon as you hit the brakes – taking away every sense of effort that you had prior to braking. 

Here are a few points that might suggest you are not making progress with your life:

1. You are more angry and irate than ever.

It’s only natural to take to your defenses when you feel threatened.

They probably already know.” As your thoughts are so open to you, you get to feel your thoughts have already betrayed you and your cat is out of the bag, causing you to panic thoughtlessly and making you paranoid.

2. It’s always a Monday

Everybody hates the first day after a weekend. But when in the non-progress zone, every day is a Monday. Projects see no progress and the schedule becomes less  tidy with several unfinished old projects and a few new clusters spilling off the page.

3. Looming deadlines

You’re cornered to the last inch with every postponed project pointing at your throat. Too close to even swallow hard, and your only way out is plucking a few sour grapes: “It wasn’t meant to work out after all.”

4. Egocentric 

You now keep yourself from helping others. You don’t want them catching up with you. But who catches up with an accelerating car?

Help goes both ways. It refines your angle of thought, exposes your process models to critique and builds on weaknesses. It is an evolutionary process that revolutionizes the battlefield.

5. Amplify others’ flaws

Flaws are meant to be pointers to learning. Stakes used to silently draw lesson, while thanking God you didn’t have to experience it firsthand. Perpetrators of mistakes ought to be revered for being your teachers and not mocked. Only a fool delights at another’s failure to shield their own weakness.

6. Gets over-excited over small fish.

Small fish are small fish and nothing changes, despite how well you describe them. 

In fear of never being able to sail in deep waters again, one frets over the possibility of having lost their touch and begins to spend more time retelling their old glory days, to mask their fear of trying again. Having once ridden so well forces a learner to avoid trying out to ride in public just so to avoid a possible fall. And that slowly takes away even the little skill initially learned. 

being content with one achievement and not wanting to make a second attempt, fearing you might fail.– that’s how you know you’re not making progress in life. 



Taking my last glance at the world that I so dearly loved I see nothing but the polished axe of justice only inches away from my face that is about to end my days on earth. I try to avert my eyes to avoid the reflection on its shiny side that meets my eyes, yet the effect is so great for the muscles of my neck to beat.
In it I see the Me that I’ve always known. I see my past and how it has brought me to the present. Like a dream I begin to replay the film of my entire life.
Out infancy grows little me; an honors’ kid with no record of failure. Extra abilities begin to cook up within, I get the oratory skills, discernment, diplomacy and everything else a man of 30 can ever wish.

Out of me sprouts the little genius that drops the jaws of all passersby in awe of this phenomenon. Trust is the word that every eye sees inscribed on my forehead. And behold I am honored with  the axe of justice as a mark of authority; first a small one then later a big one fit enough only for the Kings.
Yet like a rabid dog, pride begins to eat away all the good in me. ‘I’ is the only word that remains in my vocabulary. I begin to seek absolute attention and excessive pleasure. Obsessed with the desire for influence and securing my loot, I begin to grow deaf to the plights of others and my sight is finally taken away. Everyone disappears to the Ghostly world and only appear when I need their services.
The axis of the world is finally reduced to the size of my palm, and the world is finally in my grasp. With the axe of justice in my other hand, I begin to cut my way through the human forest to absolute control.

The dripping blood on my axe and the innocent corpses at my feet bear no effect on my conscience. The spirituality and humanity in me are all clogged with obsession.

Like a spider I unconsciously spun my own web of fate. And at the appointed time I was entangled without hope of escape. Unlike the past ditches I had hauled myself out of with the help of deception and pretense, I knew this one was too great for me to break loose. I knew my days on earth had plummeted. By my own axe I was dragged to this moment; My very last hour on earth, kneeling before lynch man.
I imagined how a piece of metal not even half my weight could so quickly end my life once it swept its way past my neck.

I marveled at how a reflection on this piece of metal could bring a full revelation of my past life in less than a blink of an eye. I wondered even more how I disguised the truth with a choice of self-assuring words. Like one watching a movie for the first time I hated myself for all the mess I had caused.

What had finally wedged my eyes open? A single piece of metal on a wooden rod? With all my sharp-wittedness, how did I miss every detail or even fail to see I was going of course?
I was going to pay for every misdeed but I know even if my head falls off my shoulders and soils itself in the dirt, I will still reincarnate. And in my next life, I will right every wrong I made. Like a farmer I will grip my plough and plow the fields of serenity.
With a swish, a new thought twitched within me. “Was I the only culprit? How many people from the crowd behind the hangman were as guilty as me?” “EVERYONE!” Was the answer that came from the depths of my heart. It was the nature of man to consider his needs and secure his achievements before considering those of others. And if his needs and whims are carelessly let loose, their effects on the beholder  are overwhelmingly stunning as to hypnotize one into even banishing his dearest ones to “the land of the forgotten”; a treacherous act against one’s own principles, just clear the way for “success”.
The only antidote to this is Love and Self-introspection and that is the gift I give you all this Easter for choosing golden morals.

Would You Marry You?

A special day like this one reminds us of the fact that there is more to life than work. It doesn’t matter whether you are existing as a “ghost”(the temporarily forgotten ones without anyone to share this special day with) or as a full flesh-and-bone human in an umbrella of love today, you still must pull up your boots and walk right into the dazzling light of life.
It is a day when you have to cave in to the needs of the person next door.
But have you ever wondered if it was really generous of you to only do this once in 366 days?
Are the people you are sharing quality time with the same people you had on last year’s list?
Well I don’t think so.
The other person fell off the list because he(she) was too inconsiderate, too mean, too self-centred to be kept on your friend list. You felt like crap under the roof of this attention-seeking person and so you had every reason to unfriend him.
Was this person really as bad as you think?
In life at times there comes a time when we make wrong judgment and assumptions about other people that we even fail to see the good in them. There are no perfect beings, yet we continue to despise others and only praise a few that we think are “angels.”
How stunning it is that when two people make nearly the same mistake, one is scolded for carelessness and negligence while the other is thought to have done it out of pure innocence. We bring to surface the past wrongs of the former. Whether they were a natural slip up or an intentional reaction we do not care. We confidently claim to know the latter better than anyone else; even better than the person himself. We take no account of the other side of the story for our judgment was made long before the wrong was even done.
Yes we know this “offender” keeps grudges so it is unnecessary to take in the details for we know his history.
Are you really being the fair judge you claim to be? I think you just missed the actual person who is this worse. Look into the mirror and you will get a full view of him.
Life has taught me one good lesson: never to criticize anyone, for I might as well do what the latter did if I were in the same shoes and under the same circumstances.
~would you marry you? ~
The question you must ask yourself today is whether or not you would marry yourself(a replica of yourself)
The best way to fully understand and know the type of people you would like to interact with is by first understanding yourself.
It would be very naive of an astronomer to continuously peer into the sky in order to “read” it without first knowing the lay of the ground on which he treads while he works. For he would eventually fall into a ditch and break his spine for not knowing there was a ditch lurking ahead.
Learning how to “smell one’s own breath” is the only sure way of making oneself cautious about keeping his breath fresh all the time.
This valentine’s day I would like us all to:
1.Be considerate when making decisions, in order for us not to hurt other.
2. Aim at fixing our personality slip ups
3. Be understanding and try to imagine what reaction our actions would bring upon us if we were in the shoe of the “listeners”
4. Develop ideal communication skills to enhance our human interaction I this interdependent world.
5. Be keen enough to understand the mechanism of ourselves before taking a leap into knowing others.


Sitting under a thick tree to catch a nap after a good day’s work at the farm, I tried to take a bite at the last slice remaining in the basket to stuff my rumbling stomach but this was barely done for I saw a remarkable thing happen that forced me to abandon my meal and bleed the spectacular event onto my note book, for it was worth more than my hunger.

There before my eyes, a fully ripe grape fell into the stream that ran downhill to a big fish pond. And there it started its ride to the fate. I watched it “swim” past some bumpy rocks and finally fall into the pond. There in the pond it was crushed between the jaws of a merciless fish.

How terrible it must have been to have such a bad ending for so sweet a grape. And as I was thinking about this, another grape fell into the river but at least it got luckier for it got stuck in some overgrowth beside the stream. Yet its luck did not last a minute, for other grapes that had simultaneously “plummeted” into stream sent a couple of ripples towards it and once again the stream championed out and drove it into the mouth of another fish.

This caused a series of questions to overwhelm my brain.

Why did all the grapes have the same fate?

Why was the second grape’s victory so short-lived?

Why was its course so deceptive?

If it were human, could it have hauled itself out of the water?

The more these thoughts stirred up in my mind, the clearer my perception became.

I had finally nailed it! I realized man was not in any way different from these grapes!

We are naturally on a roller coaster. What lies ahead we don’t know, for we dare not plan or maybe we are too lazy to do the planning. We let our life rule us and not us rule our life. Yes indeed our brains have gotten a little too obese to stir our own ship towards our destiny, our very own goal.

Laziness seems to have demagnetized our compasses and procrastination has rusted its axle.

Yes indeed I am no exception either. We all wait for life to do what it has to do for us while we stay in our cabins and wait till the ship is wrecked. Our creator generously gave us enough wits to man our lives but the more our little success buttered up our bread, the more our brains clogged with the toxic oils of laziness.

We are really a great bundle of patience. We wait till every luck flies out of the window before we realize we had it.

Every time seems not to be the best time to make that right move but when are you ever going to take that first step? When are you ever going to stop bellyaching and stitch up those loose seams?

Success is never going to walk right into our homes if we don’t invite it. And we can only invite it by putting an end to this excessive patience; procrastination in disguise so it is rightly called.

It is one draw back that shutters all our aspirations. I remember having once fallen victim recently for I too am not a good manager of my own time. It took seven months for me to resurrect my Blog(Website) from dormancy and each time I thought of cranking it to life, there was always one thing that made every moment not a good time for that. But I later came to discover it was I who was the problem not the circumstances. And I finally realized circumstances are only external factors that hinder success, the main stumbling block to every success happens to be man himself.

This is one special element that is missed by many. Imagine how we manage to override external factor when we desire something that isn’t right ours. Which thief ever thinks about how many people are present at the would-be crime scene? He always finds a better way of using that number(crowd) to his advantage.

When we look back at our past and recall how many portions of luck slipped through our fingers we always justify our failure by convincing ourselves that we were either  too over ambitious as every young person naturally is or we only ring a consolation bell in our heads saying “that wasn’t meant to be and maybe you could have stepped into knee-deep trouble if you took that direction” is this really a perfect assumption, arrived at after series of page-flipping in your book of wisdom? I think not, I think is the fox’s assumption of sour grapes after failing to pluck any from the tree.

Despite all this, I believe man is at times only a shout away from turning failure into success. It only takes a word for things to change and life(and God) only waits for this word to pull one out of misery. A little less complaining and a little more action is what it takes to pan one out of the roller coaster and make him a perfect captain of his own ship.

Life is like the old genie in the lamp, you never get what you want until you spell it out.

Mortals Must Know

In life there are basically two kinds of miracles that exist: the Direct intervention and the Indirect intervention. In the Direct intervention, God puts on his superhero costume and fixes the wrongs you want to eliminate or even brings in the new things that you desire while in the indirect one,he is a back-room guy and he uses other people to deliver the packages of our long sought desires.

Both are miracles and it entirely depends on which one God chooses to use on which day.

My focus is on the “indirect intervention” type of miracles which I would prefer calling the “self caused” type of miracles, for it is the only type my mortal mind is capable of analyzing and elaborately explaining. So here is how it all works:

After true prayer a man’s now positively expectant mind tries to identify any traces of good or opportunity in every ordinary life occurrence (for it is always there despite us being naturally too busy to take a keen look and spot it out).

He then capitalizes on these opportunities to better his own life and harnesses all juice in it as if his life hangs on that thread.

When more opportunities come along the way he repeats this and gradually churns out an enormous haul out of it. Even if little is achieved on a day that his former self would call a bad day, he still remains calm like one driving to the countryside through a road that he once used, thereby saving one’s energy from being sipped up by worry and panic. Everything from the on-looker’s point of view seems to be perfect at this point.

At this stage people begin to notice the changes and a new sense of admiration swells within their hearts. They look up to his disposition with an air of esteem and long to be his in his company and do whatever is in their capacity to “work his home” just for this pleasure of being in his company to last for as long as it can be eked.

To do this some begin to offer finance-building opportunities like jobs and market for his merchandise (and this is because man when under the influence of merry emotions unconsciously takes off his outer garment of avarice {selfishness}). Thus he saddles upon this new horse of prosperity and gallops uphill to fruition his ambitions.

As the crowd of acquaintances grows bigger, the average man (who always waits for other people to think for him before he makes a decision) who happens to constitute the majority of any society consequently awards him a new status in society.

This whole chain happens gradually and at the end of the whole chain this man feels content with all the happenings in his life and bends a knee to God as gratitude.

This type of miracle is purely human caused and is dependent on one’s level of hope and perseverance.

The exact measure of the two on one side of the scale gives quantity of outcomes to be placed on the other side of the scale.

Having seen how this type of miracle is weaved by one’s own hands; it is clearly evident that any man regardless of his religious affiliations can churn out success using the 6 basic elements that you might have already noted:

  1. Positive mindset
  2.  Endurance And perseverance
  3.  Healthy social interactions
  4.  Calmness
  5.  Patience coupled with honesty
  6. Spotting out opportunities in daily life occurrences.

Therefore with these elements, man can perfectly write of his own script of the future fit for the stage. Anyone can independently paddle oneself to success along this course by adopting these elements


Never have I ever believed that fortune favors fools.

Man is naturally inclined to envying the success of his own neighbors. When this goes to the extremes, anger surges in and hatred bars any fraternity with this achiever. But hey! Why build your own prison?

We are usually too busy sulking in moments of despair to see luck jabbing at our feet. It is up to us to remain lying in this mess of despair or to get up, shake off the dirt and look for the silver lining in our storm.

Blessings are known not to occur in pairs therefore each man’s luck is unique.

When luck generously knocks at our door steps and offers an excess helping at every ambition, we begin to lose focus and our set goals suffer the most.

Extreme success beyond our initial expectations often brings reluctance and consequently inefficiency in one’s input towards anything thereby resulting in a curve towards the negatives on the graph of life. Gratification hypnotizes him to bask in the depth of his spoils and he knows not on which path he treads.

It is for this reason that I have come to respect “the man that carries only one book” for he has learnt to appreciate his only skill or luck and uses it wisely to its full capacity to improve his well being.

He treasures it more than gold and has that keen interest to understand it better in order to know how to handle it whenever it gives an unexpected misfire.And is therefore likely to excel beyond the horizon set by the man that has plentiful books on the graph of life.

Nevertheless, even the man of many books can maintain his grip on his success by employing the unfailing wonders of SELF DISCIPLINE, FOCUS and THOROUGH ASSESSMENT of his present and past while having positive outline of the future.

The Annual Routine Of A Christian

It’s exactly 31 days since the last  Christmas and we are slowly if not already moving back to the normalcy of life.

1.How many Christmas days have passed since you were born?

2.What is the real meaning of Christmas to you?

3. How did each Christmas change your life?

4. For how long did this change last?

I am in no position to answer these questions on your behalf yet if you are not any different from me then I’m sure you cannot finish this questionnaire.

This Year I asked myself why Christ chose to be born in such a small town as Bethlehem and above all in such a stinking place as a manger. Then something great that had been hushed all these years struck me. The manger was the exact resemblance of our hearts!

A manger is one box that is cleaned and refilled only occasionally. It receives stinky saliva from the dirtiest animals. And there the messiah did not mind squeezing in, he did not mind spending a night in there for he knew that just his presence would force the tenders to clean it up in order to make it befit the current purpose.

And here we are too lazy to keep our mangers clean as befits the the nobility of our guest .

will the meaning of Christmas in our lives forever be: a fortnightly purification of one’s heart? Or are we ready capture benevolent Christmas spirit within us for all eternity?

The Graph Of Eternity


As I sat down behind my desk this morning my thoughts rushed back to the old days in high school on one particular day in a Math lesson. The thoughts were not new to my brain and I knew at once this was the great post I had been waiting for since Sunday. And I took my pen to offload the meaningful tidings before they flooded my mind.

The usual feeling of dreadful fear hung around my classroom as my math teacher entered the room. He introduced a new topic about plotting graphs of Quadratic equations and soon begun to explain how solve one.

We were so hesitant about trying it out in our books for we believed it was impossible for one to draw a perfect curve, cutting through all the co-ordinates with free hand without making any errors. And my mouth fell open in dismay when he finally ordered us to solve a few questions. It could have been worth trying if it were another teacher standing in front of us but this man was too serious and often scolded us whenever one handed in erroneous work.

We all began to think of gadgets that would aid our drawing and finally as if with one brain, we found it and as soon as the teacher went back to his office for a while, we schlepped out of the class and got some fine grass on the banks of the fishponds that lay just outside the classrooms. We soon bent it and made fine curves that saved us from a day’s scolding.

Thinking about this experience and how we later learnt how do draw these graphs with free hand, I realized that there are always several alternatives to every challenge but nothing ever brings more pleasure and peace of mind than doing it honestly all by yourself.

Failure is a matter of choice which is arrived at when one yields to power of negativity which deprives one of the ability to learn new things and therefore makes one’s existence on this Earth a wastage of flesh and bones.

The character of my teacher also taught me that people are not always as bad as we may think but it’s our inability to understand and learn from their principles that makes us bad listeners. Quality is  a precious jewel that hangs around the necks of successful people.

Quote of the week

~~It is best to keep an eye  on everything ~~

This week on Quote of the week we look at a very inspiring statement frequently made by the great Spaniard King; Phillip II, “it is best to keep an eye on everything”

With this motto, he built the most powerful nation at that time by plowing through the most trivial matters that most people would call irrelevant.

Have you ever thought about how weird it is that by applying only a drop of shampoo a day you gradually deplete it  to empty even though its level does not seem to move? Everything that happens in life has to some extent an impact on us, yet in our human state we tend to overlook trivial issues. Like a dam wall it is cheaper to fix a crack in our lives in its early stages than giving yourself the trouble of resolving the issue of an undulating resultant flood.

We stress ourselves making the most efficient machinery our technological age can ever allow us to, yet we forget that our minds are the unused super machines in our basement. With well conditioned minds we can lessen our gigantic expenses and accelerate on our investment.

Here is a carefree family of 3 that leaves most of the electrical appliances on and prefers to use two vehicles when going to the same destination and never minds how rough house gadgets are handled because they are insured. Its income is more likely to be drained by maintenance and other unnecessary costs. Of course the money if calculated may seem not to be much but it comes with a psychological rot  that is expensive to cure.

Paying extra attention to the seemingly small anomalies helps improve one’s sensitivity and thereby works as a life saver against certain tragedies.

You can save yourself from being swindled by noticing the early signs of insincerity before hand. You can also study the facial expressions on the people you are communicating with and thereby find better ways of interaction that do not offend them. Imploring this skill in a relationship can help erect road signs that would warn you of the dangers lurking ahead and hence you can control your speed.

Trivial matters if not taken care of while in infant stage can crystallize into huge insurmountable problems.

The core of Humanity Expounded

For years I sought an answer to the question on what unique ability made man different from all other living creatures. After much thought and meditation I came to realize the main difference that lay hidden to the average eye: the Human mind, all this time it had been lying right before my eyes yet I had failed to make head or tail of it.

Man is basically nothing any better than any animal yet it s his ability to think that makes him supreme and master over all living creatures, with the power of thought he forges weapons to use in his life either to destroy himself or defend himself.

Our circumstance are created by our very own thoughts and therefore by ourselves. We are our own sculptors and by thought we curve out our own circumstances.

Of course you would argue out on how possible it is that man has the power to control circumstances for it were so then nobody would dare to languish in misery. True enough we do not have direct control over our circumstances but every circumstance results from one’s own character and since character is defined by one’s thoughts then indirectly we hold the strings to our circumstances.

Thought and character are faces of the same coin and circumstances grow from thought. If you were to make a close assessment, you would no doubt perceive that change in circumstances happens in the same ratio with alteration in mental conditions.

Man is not different from computers, he works under programmed software that that is created unconsciously by the kind of thoughts he harbors within himself.

A porous wallet that hardly keeps money for a minute without having it drowned in a pool of unnecessary expenses can be a perfect example to explain this. these expenses are mostly as a result of one’s preset convictions like: “with my Occupation I can’t drive such a car”, “ it’s not in me to walk through a supermarket without pulling out two trolleys of purchased items”0r “ my social status cannot allow me sleep at such a cheap hotel.”  Therefore it wouldn’t be strange to see a person with such convictions walking out of a shop with trolleys of food when he had left his kitchen shelves stocked to the brim with food. It wouldn’t be odd to see someone draining all his financial resources in trying to purchase the most luxurious car he can lay his hands on just after being promoted at work.

Like a garden, thoughts if not well tendered can give way to weeds that can choke one’s character and life at a whole with every good in it.  We weave our own web of fate and therefore have no one else to blame when life goes “hay wire.”

It’s time you uncorked that bottle of knowledge stored up in you before it is returned to its initial shelf six feet below the ground. Man is naturally anxious to change his circumstances yet forgets to change himself and that is why the loathed circumstances keep coming back like a boomerang.

Sin is generally known to be inevitable and so has to be accommodated in one’s life but I believe continuous harboring of God-like thoughts makes a virtuous man.