Have you ever wondered why husbands never really get to know their neighbors next door? It’s because they’re always working to get the next pay check for breakfast. Of course that’s subject to countless interpretation but we stick to that for now.
Have you ever imagined mounting a scooter on a treadmill? Or even wondered whether it would balance? My bet is it could perfectly balance and you could ride on it, as if it were on the ground. You would only possibly fall after turning off both the treadmill and the scooter, and that leads me to my next conclusion: air resistance plays no role in ultimately keeping us from falling off bikes.
So what then causes one to stay up balanced when riding? – The very focus on the road ahead. And it is this we have learned from our earliest days of riding two wheelers. Something a six year old would relate to.
Life bears certain similarities to a scooter and two wheeler, you only realize the threats of your surrounding when you stop pedling. You notice how uneven the ground is and how easy it is for you to fall, when you stop riding. None of which you had realized while wheeling this piece of metal with a mono-linear touch to the ground.
It’s not like the air flow kept you afloat while you were riding, but fear kicked in as soon as you hit the brakes – taking away every sense of effort that you had prior to braking.
Here are a few points that might suggest you are not making progress with your life:
1. You are more angry and irate than ever.
It’s only natural to take to your defenses when you feel threatened.
“They probably already know.” As your thoughts are so open to you, you get to feel your thoughts have already betrayed you and your cat is out of the bag, causing you to panic thoughtlessly and making you paranoid.
2. It’s always a Monday
Everybody hates the first day after a weekend. But when in the non-progress zone, every day is a Monday. Projects see no progress and the schedule becomes less tidy with several unfinished old projects and a few new clusters spilling off the page.
3. Looming deadlines
You’re cornered to the last inch with every postponed project pointing at your throat. Too close to even swallow hard, and your only way out is plucking a few sour grapes: “It wasn’t meant to work out after all.”
You now keep yourself from helping others. You don’t want them catching up with you. But who catches up with an accelerating car?
Help goes both ways. It refines your angle of thought, exposes your process models to critique and builds on weaknesses. It is an evolutionary process that revolutionizes the battlefield.
5. Amplify others’ flaws
Flaws are meant to be pointers to learning. Stakes used to silently draw lesson, while thanking God you didn’t have to experience it firsthand. Perpetrators of mistakes ought to be revered for being your teachers and not mocked. Only a fool delights at another’s failure to shield their own weakness.
6. Gets over-excited over small fish.
Small fish are small fish and nothing changes, despite how well you describe them.
In fear of never being able to sail in deep waters again, one frets over the possibility of having lost their touch and begins to spend more time retelling their old glory days, to mask their fear of trying again. Having once ridden so well forces a learner to avoid trying out to ride in public just so to avoid a possible fall. And that slowly takes away even the little skill initially learned.
–being content with one achievement and not wanting to make a second attempt, fearing you might fail.– that’s how you know you’re not making progress in life.